Marriage is not supposed to be easy for any couple. It requires long term determination. Many people will tell you that marriage is hard and I agree with that because it requires your full attention towards your partner. It requires your constant show of affection, love and support for each other. It’s very difficult for everyone to handle all these in stressful life.
Relationship is very fresh and exciting during honeymoon period. We are constantly learning new things and getting new experiences for each other. We are constantly focusing on each other. Our aim is to make other person happy during first 6 months of marriage life. After that period, our feelings for each other is same but we are surrounding with so many things like work pressure, family pressure etc. The girl has to adjust in new environment. It’s difficult for her because she has come with different set of thoughts. So, the fight will start at the end. In each and every fight, both are right but who on the earth will tell us about more right person. As our aim is to proof our self right, this fight will increase day by day and we are insecure and fear about our relationship. I figured out some points which we have to remember and implement in our marriage life to make it healthy.
Love is the most important thing in marriage. If you love your partner, you are able to do everything for his/her happiness. When you are in love with your partner, you always think about being together. Love is giving them last bite of chocolate, no matter how much you want it. One should show his/her love in front of their kids. It is very important for children to see their parents loving each other and give them a sense of security.
Respect means how we treat each other on daily basis. Respect is reflected how we are talking with each other in front of others. If you disagree on something, you are still able to respect and value of each other’s opinion. You should speak with her/him very politely and kind way especially in front of others.
One should maintain honesty with their partner. It may be financial and emotional. You should not ever try to hide anything with your partner because it will hurt you at the end. If you do something wrong, try to tell your partner as like your best friend. He / She will definitely understand and support you. Your partner should be your best friend rather than only husband or wife and should be able to share anything with you.
Fight is inevitable in every relationship but one should be more concerned how far it goes. It depends on our mutual understanding of each other. If it lasts for one day or a few hours, it is a healthy relationship. But if it lasts for a month without communicate with each other, it won’t be healthy relationship. You are able to communicate with open mind and honest way. One should never go to sleep with an unsettled fight.
We are expecting so many things from our partner. We have to accept each other for who they are and should not try to change as that change is temporary. This is the same person you have selected before so just accept it whatever he/she is. One should accept likes / dislikes of partner.
Appreciation is required in every relationship. If your spouse is helping you or doing something for you, just appreciate him/her saying he / she is the most important person of your life.
Forgiveness is the key factor of any healthy relationship. If you have done mistake, one should be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness. In this way, matter will be resolved easily with lesser time and the mind will remain positive.
You should spend quality time with each other which makes you feel refreshing. I am telling you one of my aunt’s lifestyle. She is 70 yrs old and still drinks early morning tea with her husband to spend quality time. So, decide to spend few minutes with your partner without distracted from other things. Also, you should arrange a small trip quarterly to spend quality time with each other.
Celebration plays an important role in this generation. I am not telling you about every day celebration. It may be as simple as eating street food with your partner or it may be eating dinner in 5-star hotels. It varies from your lifestyle but the important thing is to celebrate it. You can also take a small gift for her / him to show your love and care. It is helpful to bloom your relationship.
One should not ever try to compare your partner with someone else. Nowadays, people are always comparing that you are not like my friend’s wife. You are giving me a cheaper gift or not taking care of me like my friend’s husband etc. Everyone has different personality and uniqueness and no one is perfect in every task. We should accept this reality of life. Even siblings are not same with a same parent. So, one should try to find out the uniqueness of your spouse and appreciate them.
Intimacy gives feeling of being close, and emotionally connected and supported. As it becomes strong over time, one should be patient and give efforts to build it and maintain. There are difference kind of intimacies apart from sexual intimacy like emotional intimacy, financial intimacy, spiritual intimacy and creative (for example, cooking together) intimacy.
Hope this will help you to maintain healthy relationship with your partner. Please feel free to tell me reviews about my writing.
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